How Unhelpful Thinking Styles Get in the Way of Spending Better

Happy Friday, friends!

Have you ever called yourself a spender or a saver?

Or maybe your house a hot mess or dumpster fire?

There’s all sorts of labels we put on ourselves or the choices we make, but what if these labels turn into core beliefs and form the foundation for our behaviors?

And what if the labels are wrong!? 

There’s a variety of thinking styles we could be drawn to, either because of the mental shortcuts they provide, or the experiences we’ve had that solidify these perceptions.

While not always negative, there ARE ways these patterns can prove non-beneficial to our lives and spending.

Let’s look at a few examples of common patterns that influence our finances. Which ones sound familiar? 🙃

Thinking Styles: The Breakdown 💭

1. Labeling. This is when you make a global statement about yourself and imply that you will never change your current patterns. For example: “I’m a spender” or “I’m a saver.” While it may be true that your habits tend toward one or the other, the reality is: spending AND saving is a skill. And skills can be learned, improved, and refined.

2. Catastrophizing. When we jump to worst case scenario in any situation. Paid a bill a day late? Catastrophizing would make you believe that it will ruin your credit, and no bank would give you a loan again. In reality, you could just pay the bill and explain the reason for the late payment to the company before they report it to the creditors. 

3. All or nothing. With this mentality, there is no gray area. Either you pay off all of your debt or you pay off none of it. Either you save 6 months for an emergency fund or you don’t have one. This thought pattern excludes our beloved practice of the radical middle. Rememberthere is no “set in stone” way to manage your finances. The numbers that you’ve established as goals are your choice and can be modified accordingly. 

This isn’t a complete list by any means, but we can begin interrupting these unhelpful patterns by practicing mindfulness and curiosity. 

Recognizing when you’re in a thought pattern is the first step, and then asking yourself where is this thought coming from? Is it true? will help you to challenge unhelpful thoughts and introduce more beneficial ones!

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Happy Friday, 
Kim

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